Allan Herem

Allan Herem is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in California with 23 years of clinical experience. He works with adults who are stuck, stressed, or questioning what comes next. Common concerns listed include stress, anxiety, depression, relationship problems, parenting strain, and low self-esteem.

Allan uses practical conversations to help people clarify what matters to them. Sessions often focus on communication skills, exploring attachment and abandonment themes, and addressing family of origin patterns. He also helps people manage caregiver stress, commitment worries, impulsivity, and issues that follow separation or infidelity.

In the room he talks through feelings of emptiness, guilt, and shame. He helps parents and fathers address parenting and fatherhood issues without taking over decisions. He supports people working through control issues and problems with forgiveness in everyday language and concrete steps.

His background combines long-term clinical experience with an emphasis on relationship dynamics. Over two decades he has worked with many adults facing divorce, separation, and the fallout from relationship breaches. That work often includes helping people rebuild communication and set clearer boundaries.

Allan offers therapy in English and is based in California. Sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time. To begin, users complete a short matching questionnaire and schedule a first meeting via the See online therapy options button.

Therapeutic approaches and how online sessions fit

Allan draws on evidence-based approaches that focus on relationships and behavior. One common method looks at attachment and abandonment patterns to reveal how early relationships shape current reactions; this helps when communication breaks down or when people fear commitment. Another approach centers on practical behavior and coping strategies to reduce anxiety and manage impulsivity; this involves identifying unhelpful patterns and rehearsing different responses in everyday situations.

Finding the right approach is part of the work. Allan will collaborate with each person to choose techniques that match their goals and preferences, checking in regularly and adjusting methods as needs change. That means sessions can shift between exploring relationship history and practicing specific communication skills depending on what helps most.

The original profile did not specify session formats, so confirm the current options before booking. Many people find online sessions fit better into a busy day because they remove travel time, allow shorter check-ins during work breaks, or make it easier to see a therapist from a different part of the state. Online work also makes it simpler to focus on communication skills and role-play exercises without needing to rearrange a full day.